On the cross of Calvary, Jesus did two things for the forgiveness of the world. He died and He prayed. By His death, He paid the price of sin—the “wages of death”—and, thus, retired our debts. And, while He was being nailed to the cross, He repeatedly prayed, “Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do” (Luke 23:34).
St. John, the apostle, calls this “propitiation.” He wrote, “if any man sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous: And he is the propitiation for our sins: and not for ours only, but also for the sins of the whole world” (1 John 2:1-2 ESV). And St. John, the baptizer, bids us to “Behold, the Lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world” (John 1:29).
Sadly, while Jesus paid for the sins of the whole world on Calvary, not everybody receives this forgiveness—either now or in eternity. Repentance is key. Jesus warns, “[U]nless you repent you will likewise perish” (Luke 13:3 and 5). And, on the Day of Pentecost, Peter preached, “Repent therefore, and turn back, that your sins may be blotted out” (Acts 3:19).
So, when we speak of God’s forgiveness, we are talking about two distinct actions of God—what He accomplished once and for all on Calvary and what He is doing in the here and now. On Calvary Jesus paid the price of your debt in full; and now, in the Church Jesus takes the I.O.U. from your hands and places it on His account.
When Christians understand the bifold nature of God’s forgiveness, it helps them better to understand how they, themselves should forgive. After all, Jesus clearly bids us to pray, “Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors” (Matthew 6:12). By these words, we ask that Jesus’ forgiveness be replicated in us—both in the forgiveness itself and in the way that it is done.
Just as Jesus first paid the price of our sins—before we were even aware of them—so also, those who have the Spirit of Christ pay off other people’s sins without requiring a pound of flesh—or even their awareness of the sin.
This means that you are not dependent upon another person’s coming to repentance before you can let it go. I have seen too many people eaten up by their gnawing desire for justice. They can find no peace until the person who sinned against them gives a satisfactory apology—and it’s rarely satisfactory enough. Thus, they are more harmed by this unsatisfied desire than they were by the original wrongdoing.
But God frees you of this unbearable burden by assuring you that he will both see to it that justice is accomplished, and take care of your physical, emotional, and spiritual needs by Himself. Jesus doesn’t require the repentance of others before He takes care of you.
Therefore, your well-being is not held hostage while someone who hurt you remains unrepentant. And Jesus does not require you to hold a grudge until repentance happens.
But neither does He require you to go and tell them words of forgiveness that they are not ready to hear. He may give you that opportunity, or He may not. Your task is to commit your cause to God and pray for them and their well-being. God’s task is to work on your enemy’s heart to bring repentance.
Sometimes that repentance happens in such a way that you will get the opportunity to speak forgiveness aloud. Sometimes it happens after you are dead and gone. Sometimes it doesn’t happen at all.
But whatever God’s timing, you are free—free from the awful burden of holding others to account. You are free to love and serve—even those who have done you wrong. And that’s a freedom that no one can take from you.